Finding Love on the Internet: Hidden Secret #1
One of the biggest reasons we find it difficult to find love on the Internet?
We have too many choices.
Yes ... it's the opposite of the thinking of many singles: "there are just no good ones left."
It's like trying to choose one flavor at Baskin Robbins, if they had 350 choices.
The online dating world suffers from the same problem: there are just too many choices.
When you're presented with 25+ pages of potential matches to choose from, how much genuine consideration are you really giving each one? It's very easy to flip through the photos, as you might do with TV shows, using the remote control.
Before Internet dating, single people met each other naturally--usually considering one person at a time. Singles often lived in the same neighborhood...or attended the same churches or schools...or shared activities in a particular interest such as sports, movies, youth groups, biking, photography, etc.
Today, we are essentially making our own blind dates from an overwhelming number of choices. In today's online dating world, you sign on to one or more dating sites, do a methodical search within your preferred geographical area, and spend a significant part of our time -- ruling people out.
You've quickly decided that you don't like the photo or what books they read or the fact that they were never married.
Be honest: Are you thinking that there might be a better one on the next page?
You are not alone. It is so easy to fall into that trap. If we didn't have so many choices, the whole process would likely be more successful.
There are many people who are online--looking--every day and hardly ever send an e-mail or try to contact any potential matches. How often do you go one line to search a dating site, and never end up contacting anyone?
Would you be willing to try a new approach to online dating? Especially if you knew it could greatly increase your chances of finding love online? It takes a fresh look at the process, and a willingness to try something different.
HOW TO INCREASE YOUR SUCCESS IN FINDING LOVE ON THE INTERNET
Dealing with Overwhelming Number of Choices
Here's a system to increase your success when looking for love on the Internet:
1. Before you begin your search: Write down two or three characteristics that you are looking for in a mate. An example might be:
- Attractiveness to You
- Physically Active and
- Has the same Religious Background
2. Then choose 5 profiles of people who have those desired traits.
3. Read everything completely in their profiles, deciding for each one...if there are any deal breakers (such as smoking habits, drinking habits, religious preference). If there are deal breakers, eliminate this profile and choose a replacement.
4. For each of the 5 profiles, make a PRO and CON list.
5. Cross off any pros or cons that don't really represent your values. For example, if you want to be married, you shouldn't choose someone who doesn't want marriage.
This is where you will have to be honest with yourself. If you say that you don't value money over some other traits, it should not be on the PRO or the CON list. If you find that money is important to you, just accept it and put it down as either a PRO. If you can't stand people who are focused on money, then put it down as a CON.
6. Choose the top 3 profiles that best meet your needs and send them a friendly e-mail, telling them what appealed to you.
7. If you don't end up meeting any of these people, start the process over. It works. And it will get you to the dating step, more often and more successfully.
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HYPNOSIS AUDIO: Let Go of Past Hurts
Do you believe that you are lovable?
Are there experiences in your past that have convinced you that you are not lovable?
Or even past relationships during your childhood that have convinced you that no one will love you....
Is there a sense that those past experiences are affecting your experience finding and keeping love?
Do you ever feel that you are projecting past baggage onto your current love relationship?
Let Go of Past Hurts can help you to move beyond your past and be open to loving and being loved.
Let Go Of Past Hurts is designed to help you:
- Find and Revive Your Lovable Self
- Leave the Past Negative Experiences Behind
- Allow Yourself to be Loved
- Believe that You ARE Lovable.
- Begin a New Life in the Present
You can read more about how and why hypnosis works here.
Price: $ 37.00
Get Back To Dating
Are you single....divorced....separated....widowed.....never married?
Do you have difficulty visualizing that you will find love again?
Do you avoid dating for the fear of possible rejection?
Yes but what can I do about it?
You can use HYPNOSIS to get you unstuck!
Your unconscious mind already has the resources to get you unstuck.. You can tap into these resources with Hypnosis.
SO HOW DOES HYPNOSIS HELP ME WITH DATING?
Hypnosis is a way of relaxing your conscious mind so I can reach your unconscious mind to create awareness of what may be standing in your way and to generate the motivation to get out there and date.
This hypnosis audio is designed to help you to:
- Believe that You Will Find Love Again
- Motivate You to Take That First Step
- Enjoy the Process of Dating, Not Just the End Goal
- Diminish Your Fear of Rejection
You can read more about how and why hypnosis works here.
Price: $ 37.00
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Current Question
I am 47 years old, have never been married, and would really like to be in a loving relationship. My problem is that I really thought that I had finally found "Mr. Right" and now I'm not so sure.
Pat and I are both dancers and met each other at a dance. We were friends for several months -- dancing, talking, and sometimes going dancing for hours. As we spent more and more time together, I realized that I was beginning to have romantic feelings for Pat and I believed that he was having the same feelings for me. On a weekend camping trip, Pat and I were intimate and I was thrilled that we were now committed to each other.
A few weeks later, Pat told me that he really was "not ready" for a committed relationship¦ but still wanted to remain friends. I was devastated and did not go out dancing for several months. Finally, I went on anti-depressants and made my way back to the dance community. Pat and I still went dancing a couple of times. However, I would not dance with him -- since that was just too intimate and painful for me.
Photo Credit: Photo by RoozA few months later, Pat told me that he missed our times together and would like to give our relationship "another chance." After much thought, I said OK -- but that there would be no intimacy since I just couldn't go down that road again. He was surprised and changed his mind again.
It's now been several months and I'm doing fairly well -- well enough to now dance with Pat again. But I still love him.
Do you think that I should listen to Pat -- and try again with a relationship that includes intimacy?
Thanks so much!
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