Frequently Asked Questions
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I join as a member?
It's easy and it's free. Just fill out the form to the right and send it in. You will only need your e-mail to sign in each time. However, your name and e-mail will remain absolutely private and will not be given to anyone else.
How do I sign up for e-mail coaching?
Go to Products & Services where you will find a form to show your interest in having e-mail coaching with Gloria. There are a limited number of coaching slots open, but you will see the updated number of openings there. You may also put yourself on a waiting list if you'd like and Gloria will let you know how many people are ahead of you.
How is JustAskGloria different from therapy?
In terms of expertise, this is not a "Dear Abby" type of website where questions are answered as entertainment. Gloria's training, clinical experience, and 25,000 hours of client work in her private practice have given here great expertise. It is Gloria who answers all questions, generally within 48 hours.
What if Gloria cannot help?
Gloria will be completely honest with you. If she feels that your question is too complex or points to issues that are best handled in one-on-one or group therapy, she will say so. She will point you to other resources, either for self-help or for professional help.
There are situations and problems that Gloria cannot ethically help you with on line. She can, however, advise you on how to handle it when it is affecting your relationship.
- Suicidal Thoughts: In the case of depression and suicidal thoughts and behavior, you need to go directly to your local hospital's emergency room if you cannot reach your physician or counselor.
- Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation
- Sexual Abuse and Related Trauma
What if Gloria does not answer my question?
Due to the volume of inquiries received, Gloria cannot promise to answer every single question. It is possible that your question is like another in the Archives. However, she makes every effort to answer each question if possible.
To see samples of Gloria's Advice, to the the Current Q & A tabs and Q and A Archives.
What kinds of issues can you help me with?
Gloria helps people with these issues and others:
- Relieving Depression, Anxiety, Fears and Phobias
- Enhancing Performance and Success: In Sports, At Work and In Relationships
- Achieving Self-Confidence
- Improving Relationships: Love, Family and Business
- Changing Habits: Losing Weight, Stopping Smoking, Stopping Obsessions
- Guidance through Grief and Loss
- Reducing Stress
- Building Parenting Self-Esteem
- Resolving Conflict
Who is eligible to join?
Just Ask Gloria was designed for those people who:
- Can't currently afford private therapy
- Prefer the anonymity that the Internet provides
- Want to try Gloria's expertise before they buy
- Who lead very busy lives and find it difficult to make regular appointments
Current Question
I am 47 years old, have never been married, and would really like to be in a loving relationship. My problem is that I really thought that I had finally found "Mr. Right" and now I'm not so sure.
Pat and I are both dancers and met each other at a dance. We were friends for several months -- dancing, talking, and sometimes going dancing for hours. As we spent more and more time together, I realized that I was beginning to have romantic feelings for Pat and I believed that he was having the same feelings for me. On a weekend camping trip, Pat and I were intimate and I was thrilled that we were now committed to each other.
A few weeks later, Pat told me that he really was "not ready" for a committed relationship¦ but still wanted to remain friends. I was devastated and did not go out dancing for several months. Finally, I went on anti-depressants and made my way back to the dance community. Pat and I still went dancing a couple of times. However, I would not dance with him -- since that was just too intimate and painful for me.
Photo Credit: Photo by RoozA few months later, Pat told me that he missed our times together and would like to give our relationship "another chance." After much thought, I said OK -- but that there would be no intimacy since I just couldn't go down that road again. He was surprised and changed his mind again.
It's now been several months and I'm doing fairly well -- well enough to now dance with Pat again. But I still love him.
Do you think that I should listen to Pat -- and try again with a relationship that includes intimacy?
Thanks so much!
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One of the things I love about Gloria is that she listens with her heart. She asks me questions most friends would not ask--like how do you feel about this? Most friends tell you what they would do, rather than asking how you feel.
When I want the truth, I ask Gloria. Sometimes, as we all know, we would rather hear what we want to hear, and we will go around asking everyone, until someone tells us that. And even though we all know that the truth hurts sometimes, I can rely on Gloria to be open and honest with me. She is a true gem and I am so fortunate to have been blessed with her friendship.
~E.T., Pennsylvania
