Gloria Helps Men and Women with Love Advice
Meet Gloria--'she's the real deal.'
Gloria Waite: The Unofficial Story
PSYCHOLOGY FOUND ME!...getting its first grip on me when I began couples counseling for my own marriage in 1977. Yes, I've been single, married and divorced myself.
I found it absolutely fascinating...this whole new world. The more I read and learned...the more Psychology grabbed me. I began to see the untapped potential in all of us--if we just knew how to find it and use it.
So powerful was its hold on me--psychology, that is--that it pulled me away from teaching HS French and back to graduate school for Psychology and Family Therapy.
With no thought of what I would do with this additional degree--I jumped in and learned everything I possibly could and finished the switch from HS French to Psychology in 3 years.
It was initially a little tough to convince the faculty that I could go from French to Psychology in one big swoop, but those same professors and my fellow students kept insisting that I had a natural gift for understanding the core of a relationship problem and coming up with solutions very quickly.
I wasn’t so sure about that....I just kept saying: “Well, all I know is that I’m here because I love it.”
When they backed up their “gifted” statements with an invitation to teach Family Therapy as an Adjunct Clinical Professor, I began to think they were serious about this. Truthfully, I had not thought much beyond that.
And maybe--just maybe--there was something to this ‘natural talent’ thing.
So, before you know it, I was graduating and needed to figure out what I was going to do with this new learning. I started a private practice. While I was busy enjoying my work and helping to solve people problems, my hourly fee went from the original $25 per hour went to the current $150 to $200 per hour....over the course of all of these years. I would never have expected that--when I started my new path.
I guess that's what they mean when they say: 'Do What You Love and the money will follow." Although I did a variety of family therapy and individual therapy, I found that my favorite was helping both men and women to find love to keep love alive.
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BUT, Here’s the problem.
Along came the HMOs and managed care.
Well, I butted heads--bigtime--with the insurance companies...because it became clear....very quickly....that insurance companies care more about their bottom line than the welfare of the patient.
They consistently denied coverage to patients who really needed help, while I remember--in 1991--the CEO of a major insurance company was making $9 million per year....and that was almost 20 years ago.
But, I hung in there....until.....
One night, I had to hospitalize a woman who was depressed and wanted to take her own life. In anticipation of this possibility, I had called ahead to make sure that she had coverage for the hospital that actually had the program to treat her particular childhood trauma. Her insurance did cover the hospital that would give her the best treatment and confirmed that for me.
When I called to admit her, I was told that she would have to see the insurance company’s psychiatrist before she could be admitted and he couldn’t see her until the next day. Her husband stayed up with her all night, so she would be safe. When they finally got in to see the psychiatrist the next day, he told her: “You’re just an overworked housewife--you don’t need to go into that looney bin.” I kid you not: those were his words.
So, I called him to protest, telling him how severely depressed she had been, I asked him: “And how are you going to feel when she kills herself?” His response: “Well, if she’s going to manipulate us like that, then I’ll put her in the hospital--but I’ll put her in a place she will never want to go again” and proceeded to name the worst possible place for someone with her traumatic background.
Oh...and By the Way....if she killed herself, I would have been held responsible.
[BTW, she did NOT kill herself: her husband was able to change insurance companies to get the coverage she needed--something that a lot of people would not have as an option]
WELL... THAT WAS IT FOR ME.
After 17 years in private practice, I left shortly after that incident and worked in Corporate America for a few years. After a bit, I began to see a few patients again. I missed what had become my specialty: to help people to find love and to keep love alive.
I kept questioning myself: ‘There’s got to be a better way to teach people what I’ve learned about love relationships...without the involvement of the insurance companies?”
I realized that I was a 'short-term' type of therapist anyway, always preferring that patients only come in to see me, when they really needed it....and to go out and practice their learnings and then come back again when and if they need it.
Then FINALLY....one day, it clicked:
A Website: JustAskGloria....where members could submit their own love life questions anonymously and also see into the struggles and solutions of other people....who want to find love--as a single--or to keep love alive as couples
A place where you can have access to various levels of support from Free Advice to PRIVATE MENTORING....
A SAFE PLACE, where you can get advice on love relationships, from the privacy and comfort of your own home.
NOT THERAPY.....but advice.....learning....education.....all about making your love life better: How to FIND LOVE is you’re single and How to KEEP LOVE ALIVE if you're part of a couple.
So, I'll be your mentor....that person who supports you, who encourages you when you think you have no options, who helps you with decisions you need to make about your love life......
My mission is to help you have the best love life you can!
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Gloria Waite: The Official Story
Gloria was drawn to psychology after starting out in her professional career as a French teacher. Realizing that her gift for interpersonal relationships was pulling her in a different direction, she returned to school at Hahnemann Medical College and Temple University to earn a Masters Degree in Family Therapy and became a Licensed Psychologist.
Teaching at University Level
So successful was she in the educational program, that she was asked to teach at the University level. She accepted a position as Clinical Supervisor and Instructor at Hahnemann Medical College. This background in clinical work is a valuable aspect of her experience, and enables her to know when a medical solution may be more appropriate for a client and when a therapy program may be the right course of treatment.
"I want to extend my thanks to you for the excellent contribution you have recently made toward the education of our Mental Health Technology students I've heard so many fine comments from the students about your course. They were clearly cognizant and appreciative of the zeal, expertise and commitment which you brought to the classroom." H.R, Hahnemann University
Private Practice of Psychology
Gloria established her own private practice in 1981, where she has helped individuals in Bucks County, Pennsylvania with problems as diverse as:
- Improving Love Relationships: Singles, Couples, Families and Business
- Resolving Conflict
- Relieving Depression, Anxiety, Fears, and Phobias
- Achieving Self-Confidence
- Enhancing Performance and Success in Sports, at Work, and in Relationships
- Changing Habits: Losing Weight, Stopping Smoking, and Stopping Obsessions
- Guidance Through Grief and Loss
- Reducing Stress
- Building Parenting Self-Esteem
Other Professional Experience
In addition to her Private Practice experience and her training in Medical School, Gloria also has experience in hypnosis to help people get 'unstuck,' when they want to change something but can't seem to get moving in the right direction.
Practical, Affordable Online Help for Singles and Couples
Gloria's vision for the Just Ask Gloria online resource center is to provide help for:
- Anyone who wants more love and less stress.
- Those who want to remain anonymous for any reason. She has also found that people in love relationships....especially married couples.. are reluctant to tell someone they are having problems, so either (1) they don't get a referral to the help they need or (2) they finally get help when the relationship is way past repair.
- Those who need help, but may not be able to afford it. Both the "free" and "pay" solutions are designed for those who need more than a quick answer, but without the expensive price tag of private therapy.
Why Gloria?
Because of her in-depth experience and her natural gifts, she intuitively knows what people need to do and can explain her solutions to a diverse audience. Although her medical and business backgrounds gives her additional insights into the real lives of clients, she does not view people as a 'diagnosis.'
She offers ideas, resources and other ways for you to help yourself in your love life, including hypnosis for getting you 'unstuck:' Some examples that keep people stuck are anxiety, lack of self-confidence, not feeling lovable or unresolved grief.
With hypnosis, you can reach your unconscious mind to get motivated and get moving in your life. She also uses hypnosis techniques to help people with such things as sports performance, weight loss, nail biting, and other unwanted habits. More About Hypnosis
"Thank you for your time, energy and expertise...at our recent conference on relationships.... what an invaluable contribution I found it to be. It's not surprising
that you received very high ratings in the post session summaries."
K.R, Warrington, PA
Your Psychologist
Gloria's free resources can be used by anyone to find out solutions that have helped countless others. In addition, Gloria can be your personal relationship coach, providing you with expert, but practical advice for a fraction of the cost of private therapy. See Other Services
"I've been attending these conferences for years. I'm glad someone finally had the foresight to invite you as a speaker. I truly enjoyed it."
L.M., Doylestown
Gloria's Message to You
No matter what your current life situation, you have untapped inner resources that you are not using. And even more importantly, you are not alone. Whether you are a man or a woman: If you need help, Just Ask Gloria.
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Current Question
I don't feel like I'm wanted in a sexual way by my husband. We have sex maybe once a week and it feels more like it's something he has to do and not wants to do. I want to feel wanted in that way, but no idea what to do.
When we argue about it, he says that he's too tired and just wants to go to bed. But I was also told that I nag him too much which then causes him not to want to have sex with me. When I asked him why he started to dip again after quitting smoking 4 months ago, he said he didn't know.
The other big issue is his video games. He plays from the time he gets home from work at 5PM till about 11PM. I would ask him to stop, he said it was his way of relaxing. Even when I came to him in cute outfits, he would says 'cute' and continue to play. I've been feeling like this for about three or 4 months.
My husband works at a car parts store as a manager. He now has to go to different stores every week to fill in for managers or when an extra person is needed. He's not happy without the manager job. I'm healthy and in shape. My husband is 28 years old. It's not that sex is bad....the problem is getting him to want me. I have no idea what to do.
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I didn’t have a specific issue when I began seeing Gloria; just a feeling of being “flat” and a deep frustration with my current situation and my inability to move forward. I was wary of seeing a psychologist, but I wasn’t sure where to turn. Gloria immediately put me completely at ease. She was professional and extremely knowledgeable and more importantly she took the time to get to know me and my thoughts and beliefs rather than attaching symptoms to a client and generating a diagnosis. Her ability to marry science and spirituality and share her own beliefs and experiences was incalculably valuable to me. I am now on a much brighter path and Gloria was a huge part of my transformation.
~Ken - Newtown, PA
